Parents Who Host

Parents who host

Don't be a party to teenage drinking. It's against the law.


FACT: It is a criminal offense in the state of New Jersey (2C:33-17a) to serve alcohol to anyone who is under the legal age of 21.

FACT: It is a criminal offense in the state of New Jersey (2C:33-17b) to make your home or property available for the purpose of allowing minors a place to consume alcohol.

FACT: New Jersey's Social Host Liability Law imposes civil penalties on social hosts who serve alcohol to minors who subsequently are involved in incidents causing death or injury.

Alcohol- Youth's #1 Drug of Choice!

National research shows that 57% of minors reported drinking at friends' homes. Local surveys suggest that 60% - 80% of 11th and 12th graders obtain alcohol from home or home parties, with 30% reporting that they consume alcohol at home with their parent's permission.*

7.8% of New Jersey's 8th graders and 10% of New jersey's 7th graders have used alcohol in the past 30 days**

About 4 in 5 (78.5%) of NJ's high school students have used alcohol in their lifetime and nearly half (48%) used alcohol in the past 30 days.**

Nationally, 12% of 8th graders, 22% of 10th graders, and 29% of 12th graders report having consumed five or more drinks in a row in the last two weeks.**

Consequences of Use

More than 40% of individuals who begin drinking before age 13 will develop alcohol abuse or dependency at some point in their lives.**

Underage drinking is a factor in nearly half of all teen automobile crashes and 50% - 65% of youth suicides. Alcohol abuse is linked to as many as two-thirds of all sexual assaults and date rapes of teens and college students.*

27.9% of New Jersey's 7th and 8th graders who used alcohol in the past 30 days got F's.**

Almost 12% of adolescent drinkers engage in alcohol-related physical fighting.**

*Source: Institute for Public Strategies Briefing
**Source: National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence - New Jersey

Suggestions for Parents if your Teen is giving a Party

  • Put your phone number on the invitation and welcome calls from parents.
  • Avoid sending e-mail invitations as these can be easily forwarded to mass amounts of people and you can lose control of who has the information.
  • Let attendees know that if they leave the party, they can't come back.
  • Be sure all forms of alcohol, firearms, and over the counter/prescription medications are secured and in a safe place.
  • Be clear that there will be no alcohol, drugs or tobacco at this party.

What Can You Do As Parents?

Talk to your kids about the consequences of alcohol and drugs, AND don't be afraid to talk to your kids' circle of friends. Set and communicate clear rules - be direct about your expectations and the consequences of your child's actions.

If your teen is attending a party, call the parent host to ensure there will be appropriate supervision and no alcohol. Call your friends' parents and make sure you're all on the same page about underage drinking and how your child is getting to and from the party. ALWAYS give your child permission to call you at any hour for any reason for a ride. Help your child identify another adult they trust and can also call at any time for help.

Be a good role-model for your child.

Help your teen to make healthy lifestyle choices.

Talk to older siblings about the consequences of supplying alcohol to younger brothers and sisters or their friends.

Where Can You Turn for Help?


Addiction Helpline of Parents Support NJ 800-561-4299
Addiction Hotline of New Jersey 800-238-2333
Alcoholics Anonymous 800-245-1377
AIAnon/Ala Teen - families/friends 973-744-8686
Center for Alcohol & Drug Resources 201-488-8680
Nar-Anon Families & Friends of Addicts 732-591-1827
Narcotics Anonymous of NJ 800-992-0401
National Suicide Prevention Hotline 800-273-TALK
National Runaway Switchboard 800 RUNAWAY
National Youth Crisis Hotline 800-442-4673
Parents Anonymous/Family Helpline 800-843-5437
Psychiatric Intervention Screening 201-262-HELP
Rape Crisis Hotline - 24 hour hotline 201-487-2227
Safe Haven for Infants Hotline 877-839-2339
Jersey Battered Women's Service 973-267-7520
NJ Domestic Violence Hotline 800-572-7233
NJ Child Abuse Hotline 800-792-8610
First Call for Help (connect & get answers) 2-1-1
Useful Websites
National Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence www.ncaddnj.org
National Institute on Alcohol Abuse & Alcoholism www.niaaa.nih.gov
New Jersey Prevention Network www.njpn.org
Drug Free New Jersey www.drugfreenj.org
Willow Tree Center www.willowtree.org
New Jersey Quit Net www.nj.quitnet.com
Teens - Freevibe www.freevibe.com
Young Teens- The Cool Spot www.thecoolspot.gov
Parents - The Anti-Drug www.theantidrug.com
Family Guide www.family.samhsa.gov
40 Developmental Assets www.search-institute.org
Youth Empowerment Alliance www.uwmorris.org
Find Treatment www.findtreatment.samhsa.gov
NJ AI-Anon/Ala-teen www.nj-al-anon.org

Consequences ... It can be a VERY costly choice!

It's a criminal offense in NJ to allow underage drinking in your home, so for starters, you're looking at a disorderly persons charge - that's a record and a fine!

If an underage party-goer drives after drinking, it will cost you, If your car is damaged or if you submit a claim on your insurance policy, get ready to payout again. Additionally, you may risk losing your policy.

You will be held civilly liable if sued by another parent. Injuries, alcohol poisoning, sexual assault, drowning, or suicide may result in lawsuits. You can't put a price on relationships, but you've just lost the trust of other parents and you've lost the respect of your neighbors and friends.

It's a criminal offense in New Jersey to allow underage drinking in your home.

Source: http://www.wtpdmorris.org/news/host.php